The Admirer’s daughter!

I may have mentioned, but S has a daughter (6).  He hasn’t seen her since last year.

Potted re-cap (because I can’t be bothered to go find) ..

Shag = daughter

He has seen daughter “E” as much as is possible considering his job and the irregular hours and contributes to her upbringing in £’s as many right-minded person would.

Last year he was supposed to take her away for a week with his parents but the mother decided that Cornwall was too far away and said that E was not happy with the situation (???)  E:mails went back and forth and S said that he felt it was best that he opted out of the situation.  The mother wanted him to stay with “them” and take her out on day trips!! ???

Several e:mails ensued, but nothing has been heard since July.

Christmas came and went .. a thank you card, written by the mother, signed by E.

Birthday came and went .. ditto lame card .. signed by E .. (can the child not write (or copy) ???

Last Friday we went out for a meal with LizandMike (S’s supposed best friends on the planet). 

Now, let’s get this straight, I am supposed to tell S the minutae of my life .. otherwise “we aren’t communicating”! ..

HE DID NOT TELL ME THAT “THE MOTHER” AND LIZ WERE BEST FRIENDS!

So, our “we’re getting a house together” came up and I added that I didn’t want us to get an “uber expensive” house together and for “her” to think he was suddenly minted .. and the added monthly expense that it would entail – because it would be mainly my money buying the house!  Oh f*ck .. it all kicked off at that point .. BUT ..

it would appear that the mother tells one side of the story and S another .. and I know who I believe!

It came out from Liz that “the mother” had tried “every avenue” to contact him to make amends???  WTF!!??  She has been pleading the fact that “there is a little girl out there who misses her daddy! .. double WTF!! (at which point S cried – BECAUSE WE KNOW THAT – he misses her and I have said I will support him in whatever he decides to do but he shouldn’t be held to ransom)!  He was stupid, and male – FACT. 

Even Liz admitted that the pregnancy was pre-meditated (the mother already has a boy by another father .. oh, and she’s one of those holistic twats) .. and S said that he wasn’ t prepared to be an unpaid baby-sitter – which is not unreasonable – because that is what she appears to want!

So why should S pay for her duplicity, cunning .. whatever ..

anyways .. I’m angry ..

Dog watch ..

I mentioned earlier that I was too nice a person!

Well, after last year’s debacle with the lost gekko, I agreed (stupidly) to animal sit again!

Gekko .. check (but do I really have to feed it maggots and crickets??)

Dog .. check

Rabbit .. omfg .. where is it?  It appears that it has died (or that’s what I have assumed bearing in mind no water or food in the cage).

Dog is staying with us .. and stinks .. so I bathed her .. then she rolled in something unimaginable .. so she had to have another bath!  She’s partied on the bed (3 duvet cover changes already) .. and if I have to walk her round the block, drags me past her house at 90mph as far from it as she can!

Now I just have to work out how to skyplus the match tomorrow!

Update .. d ..

So, it’s been a month or 2.  Things have settled down with “The Admirer” ..or as I shall now call him “S” .. it’s easier.

My job is totally insecure and we are going on a week-to-week basis with my boss sticking his head in the sand (as, I might admit, have I).  However I have uploaded my CV to several websites, as the agencies don’t seem to be coming up trumps at all.  I’m not too worried as at least I have a healthy bank balance (thanks to Pig (for once)) and I’m sure I can do something, even if it is a complete change of direction.

S and I have been talking about buying a house together .. and added stresses .. (I’m not stupid .. and have my head screwed on for this one).  He’s talking about selling his place which, I take as commitment (however I think he should keep it and rent it out). :s

S is very very lovely (I know that some people here aren’t his greatest fans, but hey, this is my blog and I write it like I see it) .. he wants to look after me and does it very very well – when I let him.  I just need to accept his care – which after Pig I find difficult .. and I’m stubborn!

I’m too much of a nice person too!  I said the words I never wanted to say to anyone again “I can lend you” .. S is now the proud possessor of a BMW 320 with added Msport pack .. to say it goes like shit off a shovel is an understatement!  However him having got a speeding ticket in mine, has made him a little cautious about pushing it (thank god).  Anyway, he’s into me for a few £k!  I will also add that he’s bought brown leather sofa’s .. as opposed to black – and is citing that and the fact he took me to Monkey World that he is committed! (you’ve gotta laugh).

I’ve been on holiday with mum .. it was ok, but frustrating to say the least and just proves I am my mother’s daughter .. stubborn is not the word for it in that case!  It was also not helped by the fact that I was a complete durr brain with regard to my computer as someone had turned the wireless button off and I didn’t realise where it was until 2 am in the morning 1 day before we left!  I’ve learned one thing about my computer!

HOWEVER .. if anyone remembers the debacle of my drunken texting to some stupid woman last October .. she sent a text (accidentally???) .. late last month ..

Txt 1:  Sorry Stef .. can’t make that day

Txt 2:  Sorry went to wrong person

Txt from S:  It happens – hope you are ok.

Text 3:  Had a mental block! Happens all the time. Am ok, hope you are ok to. Lovely weather for you.X

That’s ok .. things like that “do” happen .. but then .. on Saturday he got ..

Just had a thought of you this morning. This is FABULOUS weather for your golf sticks. Hope work going ok for you. Dont worry, its just a small thinking of you message, going now, got jobs to do. Enjoy xx

???

He hasn’t replied, but what the fucking hell is she trying to do and why (apart from she’s a sad cow)?? (and it’s been over a year since she’s “seen” him) .. does she think he’s single – because most of his relationships haven’t lasted that long?

Anyway, I am back .. and hope to keep this thing updated, with random thoughts and musings .. I have been reading other people’s blogs, but not commenting – please do not feel abandoned – hugs to all that need them – high fives to others!

Also, I am available on Fridays for lunches, shopping etc etc etc!

There’s more .. but I’m leaving that for tomorrow.

Cat xx

Update ..

will be coming soon .. but actually all is going well. xxx